...at least it seems to be for him.
We are on Day 2 of "not-so-nice" behavior. He has broken things, yelled at people, said, "Shut up" and now I am pretending not to see as he has a little tantrum in the time-out chair.
Thankfully, I know that he is testing where the boundaries are. He is testing to see if we will send him away. He is testing to see if we really do love him. It is because we do love him and want him to feel safe that we will remain firm with the boundaries.
I knew this was coming. I am not getting emotional about it.
I'm so thankful other friends who have adopted and shared their discipline stories with me. It tells me this is "normal" and that it will get better.
Patience...
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Saturday, February 5, 2011
Pleasant surprises
We went and picked up Aiden yesterday. It was to be a trial overnight visit. We expected tears at bedtime. We expected he would want to go "home."
Bedtime came and we read some books and sang some songs and he drifted off to sleep talking about Buzz Lightyear. He awakened once in the night with tears, but we settled him down and he went right back to sleep.
This morning Aiden woke up full of smiles asking, "Is it morning time?"
Pancakes, playing in the snow, playing in the house...
Foster parents requested we come get his stuff today. It is too hard to dread saying goodbye. Husband went and got Aiden's things.
We expected Aiden to stress out when he saw his things arriving. We thought he would start to process the fact that he was staying...
Aiden only asked, "Who is going to bring my toys?" We assured them they were in the truck.
We got permission for him to stay here through the weekend, but I told the social workers we intended to keep him forever. She seemed fine with it.
It's nearing bedtime again and so far Aiden seems to like us. He seems to be accepting the fact that this is his home. My mom always said, "Home is where your stuff is." Aiden seems to agree.
I pray that soon Aiden will know that HOME is where the LOVE is. :)
Bedtime came and we read some books and sang some songs and he drifted off to sleep talking about Buzz Lightyear. He awakened once in the night with tears, but we settled him down and he went right back to sleep.
This morning Aiden woke up full of smiles asking, "Is it morning time?"
Pancakes, playing in the snow, playing in the house...
Foster parents requested we come get his stuff today. It is too hard to dread saying goodbye. Husband went and got Aiden's things.
We expected Aiden to stress out when he saw his things arriving. We thought he would start to process the fact that he was staying...
Aiden only asked, "Who is going to bring my toys?" We assured them they were in the truck.
We got permission for him to stay here through the weekend, but I told the social workers we intended to keep him forever. She seemed fine with it.
It's nearing bedtime again and so far Aiden seems to like us. He seems to be accepting the fact that this is his home. My mom always said, "Home is where your stuff is." Aiden seems to agree.
I pray that soon Aiden will know that HOME is where the LOVE is. :)
Friday, February 4, 2011
It's finally raining
God places the lonely in families... Psalm 68:6a
It rained yesterday. Our name was on the authorization sheet and we got the call that we were authorized for a little four-year-old boy named Aiden. Our social worker was telling me when I could come down and see his file, mentioning when she would be out of the office. I told her, "I'm on my way." Husband met me there and we ready through his file together.
It is clear that God has had his hand on this little guy from the beginning. He has suffered, but it is not nearly as bad as what some kids in the system experience. We are thankful for that. I know the transition for a "forever family" will still be a tough one, but the Lord has shielded him from any major trauma or abuse.
We signed the paperwork indicating we want to move forward with visitation. The social workers called the foster family and they wanted us to come over right away. So, within the hour, we were with our new son.
The visit went well and tonight he is going to come spend the night with us. We will gradually ease him into life as one of us. I imagine it is going to be quite confusing for him when it clicks that he is being moved from the only home he can remember. The foster parents want to remain as grandparents, but I am sure he will miss them terribly on a day-to-day basis.
We are praying for a smooth transition. We are praying for his heart to be open to us. We want him to feel secure and loved in our home.
I am sure there are tears ahead for all of us, but the Lord has called us here and orchestrated the events, so he will be faithful to us in whatever the future holds.
Praise the Lord!!
It rained yesterday. Our name was on the authorization sheet and we got the call that we were authorized for a little four-year-old boy named Aiden. Our social worker was telling me when I could come down and see his file, mentioning when she would be out of the office. I told her, "I'm on my way." Husband met me there and we ready through his file together.
It is clear that God has had his hand on this little guy from the beginning. He has suffered, but it is not nearly as bad as what some kids in the system experience. We are thankful for that. I know the transition for a "forever family" will still be a tough one, but the Lord has shielded him from any major trauma or abuse.
We signed the paperwork indicating we want to move forward with visitation. The social workers called the foster family and they wanted us to come over right away. So, within the hour, we were with our new son.
The visit went well and tonight he is going to come spend the night with us. We will gradually ease him into life as one of us. I imagine it is going to be quite confusing for him when it clicks that he is being moved from the only home he can remember. The foster parents want to remain as grandparents, but I am sure he will miss them terribly on a day-to-day basis.
We are praying for a smooth transition. We are praying for his heart to be open to us. We want him to feel secure and loved in our home.
I am sure there are tears ahead for all of us, but the Lord has called us here and orchestrated the events, so he will be faithful to us in whatever the future holds.
Praise the Lord!!
Thursday, January 27, 2011
Forecast
For those of you who follow this blog (both of you) and wondering about our adoption, we are still in the waiting process. Each month there is an "authorization sheet" that is approved and submitted. It is a list of families and children who have been matched for adoption. The families are "authorized" to meet with the child/ren and pursue adoption of that child or children. Our name has not been on one yet. The next one is due out in the middle of February. I believe our name will be there.
Things are happening behind the scenes. I'm sure of it. Check back mid-February and hopefully there will be happy news posted here. Thanks for praying for us.
Things are happening behind the scenes. I'm sure of it. Check back mid-February and hopefully there will be happy news posted here. Thanks for praying for us.
Friday, January 14, 2011
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Still Preparing for Rain
There might be a dark cloud in the sky. There might even be a rumbling of thunder. It's not raining yet, but we probably need to invest in some raincoats. Stay tuned!
Sunday, January 9, 2011
Preparing for Rain
They say that if you pray for rain, you should carry an umbrella. Well, we spent the weekend rearranging the boys' closet. We installed another area for hanging clothes and bought organizers to increase storage space.
It costs a lot of money to prepare to add people to your home. At least when you have a baby, you know about what time the new little one will arrive. With adoption, we just prepare and wait.
So...our paperwork is up-to-date, the room is ready, clothes are in the closet, toys are on the shelf...our umbrella is open and we are just looking to the sky hoping to see rain clouds rolling in...
It costs a lot of money to prepare to add people to your home. At least when you have a baby, you know about what time the new little one will arrive. With adoption, we just prepare and wait.
So...our paperwork is up-to-date, the room is ready, clothes are in the closet, toys are on the shelf...our umbrella is open and we are just looking to the sky hoping to see rain clouds rolling in...
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